Have been giving a lot of thought about friendship lately.
I have an old friend of nearly 20 years who I was always comfortable with and assumed she felt the same about me. She isn't my best friend, but we were close enough that we know almost everything else that went on in each other's lives.
I feel that I've been a good friend to her.
I know I am.
I was there when her boyfriend did horrible things and they broke up several times. I took her (and her self-invited boyfriend) to expensive birthday lunches and got her gifts for her birthday every year. I even supported her business via promotion on social media and purchasing an expensive product from her.
It wasn't until this year when I realised she hasn't been that great of a friend to me. I never got birthday gifts from her. She took me to casual cafes ONLY for my birthdays. She doesn't support any of my businesses (neither purchase nor promotion). She even sold me some of her products at an elevated price.
I think I got too comfortable with the idea of her as a friend that I was never calculative over the gives and takes in our relationship. But as I hit 30 this year, I begin to want to only have good, appreciative friends in my life.
Unfortunately, she does not make the cut.
0 comments:
Post a Comment